The framework also holds because each of us commits to it. These five pillars are written in the first person: every malicieuse embraces them on entering. Consent is our common language.
01I allow myself simply to be. My moods, my pace, my truth, my limits — none of these needs justifying here. Every part of me is welcome. I have nothing to prove. I allow myself to receive as much as I give: because being nourished, supported and connected is a right, not a reward.
02My body has the right to move, to rest, to say stop. My pace is valid. Stretching, drinking and stepping outside for fresh air are integral to my wellbeing here. I do not have to wait for breaks simply to stop, use the toilet or make myself a cup of tea. I can end an interaction at any time if it feels too intense or if I feel tired or uncomfortable.
03Saying ‘no’, ‘not now’ or ‘I don't know’ is not merely permitted, but encouraged. Touch is never implied. Slowly and with awareness, I make sure there is consent before any contact, I listen, and I respect boundaries without insisting. We move at each woman's pace.
04I speak from my own experience and listen without projecting. I share in the first person, from what is alive in my body, and I listen without trying to take control: without interrupting or wanting to correct, compare or rescue.
I trust silence as a space for communication, and I do not always try to fill it. I honour the facilitator's invitations to silence to support the integrity of our shared space.
05I take care to preserve the confidentiality and integrity of what is shared here. I take responsibility for my emotions and welcome what emerges with curiosity and gentleness, without projecting what belongs to me onto someone else.
I practise impeccable speech: I refuse to fuel rumours or speak about others in their absence. If there is tension or discomfort with a participant or facilitator, I name what is happening and actively commit to restoring the connection, drawing on the tools and channels put in place by the community.